Hebrews 13:5, “…. God has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you”
Loneliness can be a very overwhelming emotion, no matter how old a person is. It’s a part of every human being, as surely as the heart is. Everyone knows the feeling of loneliness that no one else can really know and feels isolated to a certain degree. We can experience loneliness in society, within our own family, or loneliness of sorrow and guilt. Loneliness is so frightening because it is born out of fear. We fear one another, lest we be rejected by the other. We fear that we will be misunderstood, unloved and unwanted, so we draw within ourselves, afraid to live courageous, honest lives. Judy Garland said, “If I’m such a legend, then why am I so lonely? Let me tell you, legends are all very well if you’ve got somebody around who loves you”.
As with Judy Garland, most of us have felt unloved and experienced loneliness in some form or another. I can remember very clearly the deep sense of aloneness that swept over me during my first few days in the U. S. Navy. People with physical disabilities have said that their greatest pain is loneliness. It is also felt by parents who have been neglected by their children, by husbands or wives who have lost their mate, and by people from a minority group who have been excluded from social activities. As believers in Christ, if we want to be followers of our Savior, we should be reaching out to the lonely all around us. We can’t be with them all the time, nor can we fully know their pain. Our presence may help, but we are never enough. Only God can meet the needs of the lonely. And here is the good news. In Jesus He has revealed Himself as “Immanuel,” which means, “God with us.”
In Mel Gibson’s graphic portrayal of Jesus’ crucifixion in the film, “The Passion of the Christ”, one’s emotions are gripped by the awfulness of the physical torture Christ endured, a suffering beyond comprehension. Yet, there is an anguish of greater severity that might be overlooked. It was an emotional and spiritual anguish – His aloneness. Thus, Jesus completely understands rejection, pain, and loneliness more than any of us can imagine. He can relate to what you’re going through at this very moment. That’s why He can help you get through your time of trial, if you’re willing to trust Him. The Bible has a message of the good news about Jesus Christ who cared enough for you to die as your substitute on the cross at Calvary.
He is the friend of the lonely, of the unhappy, and of the unloved. It’s about the Friend who loves each of us with a love that can never be alienated, who sticks closer than a brother, and who understands us completely. My friend, if you don’t know Him as Savior, He extends His nail-scarred hand and invites you to be His friend, Savior and companion for life, thus you will never be lonely. Moreover, using God’s Word, discover how the following three actions can also help to ease your loneliness:
(1) Learn contentment. Read Philippians 4:10-13, then ask God to help you to depend on Him each day and to learn to be content in any situation;
(2) Do good for someone. Read Hebrews 13:1-3, and then look for someone in need of help. You’ll get rid of loneliness for both of you; and
(3) Worship with God’s people. Hebrews 10:21-25 emphasizes the value of worshiping with other believers. Find someone with whom you can praise God. My friend, if you’re feeling lonely, lean on Jesus for contentment. Help someone else, and worship God with other believers. These actions will redirect your thinking and remind you that when you know God you’re never alone.
Many people are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.